Hey there. All this talk about marriage equality has inspired me to look within and ask myself my true feelings about what marriage and partnerships should entail. In order to fully comprehend what is best for me, I must be honest about what my own needs are and how best they would be served as a husband and father.
First I would like to address some of the rhetoric coming from those who oppose gay marriage.
To say that gay marriage will lead to the destruction of "traditional" marriage is a huge fucking farce.
Any Christian, Muslim, or Jew on the planet will willingly admit they believe they are direct descendants of Abraham. Abraham was a Hebrew. He was the great-grandfather of Judah, whose descendants became known as the Jews. He was also the father of Ishmael, who most Arabs believe they are in line with.
This dude had AT LEAST two wives... plus concubines many times chosen by his head wife Sarah. It could be said that the Jews and later Christians, by reorganizing the construct of marriage to mean one man and one woman, are themselves responsible for destroying the traditional marriage template. Who are they to say having multiple wives (or husbands, which I will get to in a bit) is wrong... especially if the family structure of the proprietor of their races was Polygamy????
"Pretty soon people will want to marry their dogs and cats!!"
FUCK YOU!!
That is impossible. A marriage needs consent. How in hell are you going to prove consent with a dog or cat... or car or table, as some idiots like to REALLY embellish their moronic viewpoints by suggesting gay couples marrying is akin to a human wedded to furniture. You can't.
"The natural parental format is a man and woman and children need a father and a mother."
This one is tougher... put two lesbians in one room, two gay men in another room, and a man and a woman in yet another, and let the first pair that conceives out. I promise there will be two couples stuck in a room for life. HOWEVER... just because gay couples can't conceive does not mean they do not have the quality skills needed to rear loving caring children. And although I agree that a child NEEDS both male and female influence throughout his/her life... there is no reason this nurturing from both sexes can not be made available with uncles, aunts, friends, grand parents and every other frikin person they will ever meet.
So... I am all for gay marriage and gay parents. But i am for it for reasons I have yet to hear anyone else express.
My ideal relationship would be a poly amorous one. Me. A woman. And another woman. The three of us loving each other, supporting each other, working for each other, and raising our children together.
Now within my ideal relationship it would also be necessary for the two women to be bisexual. There is nothing like three people (or more) enjoying their sexuality together. If you don't believe me try it. The trust, honesty and pleasure level goes through the roof. And we all know that three is the strongest base.
For those of you wondering... I am absolutely all for a woman finding two men to be with as well.
I have yet to meet a woman who has experienced two men at the same time who did not feel like a Godess. And more women than most women reading this will believe have told me that when they watch porn very often it is male on male.
Now that the sexuality is out of the way...
Imagine our marriage. All of us work. Perhaps we have a nice two bedroom. Perhaps we have a house. We have just cut the rent or mortgage into thirds. (of course 4 people can marry too... financially that is even better) We want children. One of my wives is not ready yet... but the other is. So we have a baby. Suddenly this beautiful child has three loving parents. At what time of day is one of his/her parents not available? Suppose the wife who bore the first child now finds an excellent career opportunity. There are still two other parents sharing the load. And maybe the other wife will now wish to be a mom...(if for any other reason than her wife just had a baby and now she is over the moon with the idea herself).
Imagine I marry a beautiful German woman... and a gorgeous Latino. Or a Swede and an Ethiopian. Or a Native American and a girl from podunk Iowa. These children will be raised in a tremendously culturally diverse home with different foods, languages, music, dance, and LOVE!!
Imagine an argument between two of the spouses. There is always a third perspective, usually objective, to help temper the squabble and prevent it from taking over the relationship.
College savings, car payments, bills, pleasure money for vacations... not to mention three sets of grandparents spoiling the heck out of the kids.
I am not saying I am unable to love one woman in a marriage for life. But i am certainly more inclined to love two. And I believe the attention level of all three in the relationship would be heightened because of the attention they themselves receive within the marriage. I want for gay marriage. I NEED for gay marriage... not just because I care about my gay friends and want them to obtain all the freedoms straight couples have... but because for me to be allowed to truly have the companionship I want, we must first jump this hurdle.
"Traditional" marriage has brought us a racist, bigoted, close minded culture. It is time to go back to our roots. Let's change our rigid notion of love and partnerships and give everyone the opportunity to care and be cared for the way they need it.
And to my wives... I hope to meet you soon!!
